“How Many Times Have You Told Yourself: I Should Be Satisfied… I’m Too Old For Great Sex… My Body Isn’t Worthy Of Desire? These Beliefs Aren’t Truths; They’re Barriers To The Pleasure That’s Waiting For You.”
Like so many parts of a woman’s life, pleasure is a journey. The path is layered with beliefs formed early on — woven with judgment, shame, and expectations. We may believe we are free, yet our unmet wants, unspoken desires, and unlived experiences of pleasure reveal otherwise. To truly embrace pleasure, we must first recognize that much of what we’ve been taught no longer serves us.
The norms we cling to can lead us to suppress our true desires and carry shame for even having them. Before we can embrace this powerful energy, we must shed what does not belong to us — the shame, the judgment, the inherited beliefs that keep us from what we want.
Beliefs Like: I’m Too Old To Be Thinking About Great Sex… I Should Be Satisfied With The Sex I’m Having… I Can’t Have Sex Unless I’m In A Long-Term Relationship.
And then there’s the self-judgment about age, weight, and body. None of these beliefs were ever ours to carry and releasing them brings us closer to embracing all that we desire.
As women, we often lavish care on what feels “acceptable” to nurture: Our skin, our hair, our bodies through yoga, fitness and wellness routines. Yet our pleasure; our sensual, sexual, pussy pleasure is often an afterthought. We don’t feel permissioned to give it the same devotion, the same tenderness, the same priority.
The truth is, many of us have never felt fully comfortable embracing all of ourselves. Honoring our pleasure begins with gently questioning the stories we’ve carried about sex, desire, and worth. It begins when we meet our longing with curiosity and compassion.
Even the quiet acknowledgment that we want more – that there are experiences we crave -is a soft caress. It whispers to the parts of us that have for too long gone ignored and untouched, I see you. I’ve got you. I love you.
Embracing pleasure is our most sacred yes. It is a bold and profound act of self-love. It’s where we say, without apology or permission, YES to our whole, beautiful, vibrant, sexual being.
PS. - This Week I Invite You To Gently Explore Using This Journal Query:
- What Stories Or Beliefs About Pleasure Have I Carried That Were Never Truly Mine? How Have These Beliefs Shaped The Way I Relate To My Body And My Desires?
